The Fine Game of Nil

We’ll see how this goes…. it will probably take me all day to get this post up, if at all.

It’s been another long time since we posted. Not for lack of content, in fact, probably from too much content. So much going on, and so many old posts we need to get up. Not sure if it makes more sense to abandon hope of getting caught up and just start from the present, or try to go back…

Okay, so that took over a day to post (I started on Tuesday, and now it is Wednesday). Let’s see if we can get it done!

We made three trips to St. Louis since September. September 11-16 was just a trip to visit and introduce the extended family and friends to Dor. October 15-18 was for my mom’s funeral. Then January 15-18, to visit my Grandma (great grandma to the kids) because she had made a drastic decline in health since we had seen her in October. For a bit of background, Grandma was diagnosed with lung cancer shortly before/after Liam was born (July 2007) and was told she had around 9 months to live.  She was not a surgical candidate, and she chose to have no treatment. Two and  a quarter years later, she was still going pretty strong. After my mom died, she was even able to make a trip to Seattle at the end of October to attend the Memorial Mass for my mom at her church. I believe it was very shortly after that that things really declined. She went onto 24 hour oxygen, and quite a bit of pain meds, after a hospitalization at which her primary doctor implied her time was up, so let’s just dope her up and let her go. (Not that I’m angry about that (okay, I am)). After the palliative care team came in to work with the family, Grandma rallied a few times, but each time she was never back to her full self (health wise, mentally she was still very with it). But we knew time was getting short, so we made one more trip to St. Louis to see her. Although her week prior to our arrival had been pretty bad by all accounts, she was the picture of grace for us. We visited in short stints, no more than an hour at a time. Liam and Dor got some good face time in and I got to spend a little more time with my last living grandparent. It was hard knowing that this would be the last time we would see her, but we didn’t talk about it, because what was there to say. A few days after we left, Grandma decided she didn’t want to use the oxygen anymore, and took it off. She was going to go on her on terms (like we knew she would, she was a tough broad). Grandma Eberle died on January 26, 2010, which is also my birthday. My Grandma was one of my most favorite people in the world. While her death was not unexpected, it is still very sad.

It seems weird to just go into posting pictures, but that is what I am going to do. While in St. Louis this last time, we went to the Zoo several times, as well as the Magic House, which is pretty much a Children’s Museum. When I was growing up in St. Louis, it was located in an old Victorian building. It has expanded significantly, but still has that building as well. In January they had a Curious George exhibit (which is, ironically, now in Boston). Liam doesn’t watch TV, but does have some Curious George books. At first he was scared to meet the Monkey, but he finally gave it a chance, in the safety of Dad’s arms

One of the things the Magic House is known for is their Van der Graf (spelling?) generator, which creates hair raising effects. Liam was scared of and wouldn’t give it a try.

Guess my hair was too heavy/wet?

If we lived in St. Louis, we would definitely have a membership to the Magic House.

The next few pictures are from the St. Louis Zoo, which is one of the best zoos in the country, and free

Dor and her cousin once removed, Bridget

Liam really likes Bridget, and after we got home to Boston, spent about a week asking when we could go to Bridgie’s House

Aunt Libby, Bridget, Liam, Aunt Cathy, and Dor

Uncle Tim and Dor (Tim’s birthday is also January 26, he’s my God-father)

Out to dinner at Grandma’s place. Despite being terminally ill and having hospice and 24 hour supervision, Grandma was able to stay at her apartment at Our Lady of Life, which I think was really good for her

We tried really hard to get a picture of Liam with Grandma, but at 2 1/2, it’s really hard to keep him still for any appreciable amount of time. Especially with his cousin there to run around with. This is the best we could get, our last picture of Grandma. She even smiled for the camera, and for those who know her, that’s a big deal. Why we didn’t have alex take one of me with her, I’m not sure.

Alex has gone out to meet up with friends to celebrate someone’s birthday. I figured I should try to get a post up, even if it doesn’t have many (or any) recent pictures. I was thinking about what a change it is, having children. Having to decide who gets to go out, who will stay home. What events are worth the money for a babysitter, what events aren’t. Thinking about all the extra money we would have if we didn’t have kids. But then I think about reading stories with Liam, or hearing Dor’s belly laugh when I pretend to eat her cheeks or tummy, and I know. I know I wouldn’t trade this for the world. I can complain about money and free time, but in reality, we have it pretty good. We’re not struggling. I still have time for a social life. And Liam and Dor bring me more joy then I ever imagined was possible. Even through my sadness and grief, I am thankful every day for them. And my heart grows every day because of them. Yes, it breaks a little, too, thinking about mom missing all of this. But I know. I know that if she can, she is watching from somewhere. And I know that she would want us to go on and enjoy every moment that we have. And tell good stories about her, of course.

I was thinking about Alex’s recent post about Liam telling stories. It’s so wonderful to talk to him. He is getting into pretend play, and uses most things he finds as either a phone or a camera. He makes his stuffed animals and other toys do things, sometimes just “for pretend”. Like tonight when he wanted to put a little wooden gorilla into his water glass at dinner. When we said no, he said, “no, just for pretend”. Also, he loves to read. There are several books that he has us read night after night, sometimes multiple times throughout the day as well. And he has started to memorize a few, and will read it to us after we read it. It is amazing how he gets it right. The exact right phrase on each page. Sometimes it’s a summary of what is said on the page, but sometimes it is right on, word for word. I especially love when he reads us “I met a dinosaur”. There’s a line that says “it’s just bones, girl”, and another that says “go to sleep, girl”. and it’s hilarious to hear him say it. He’s such a loving boy, too. Loves his sister, or “my baby” as he calls her. Yesterday at daycare, his class was in the playroom that abuts Dor’s class room. One of Dor’s teachers brought her out to say hi, and he apparently went running across the room saying “my baby!” and giving her kisses.

Dor is also growing every day. She had her 6 month appointment a few weeks ago. She’s tiny, only 13 lbs and 14 oz, which puts her in the 9th percentile for weight. But she nurses well and is taking to her solids. We’ve decided to introduce some higher calorie foods more quickly, so bananas, whole milk yogurt, and avocado are all in her repertoire now. She is recovering from a GI bug she picked up, which has made her go from a poop every few days, to about 12 a day! Her poor bum is so sore. But it’s finally getting better and things are slowing down, so that’s good. Still not sleeping through the night. I’m hopeful it will happen soon. She sits up very well now, and coos and babbles, and even gets some “mmm” sounds that I maintain sound like mama. She claps her hands, has waved inconsistently, and also makes kissy noises. She smiles like crazy. and she loves Liam, maybe even more than she loves Alex and I. She lights up when she sees him, and cackles and everything he does. I cringe to think all the things she’s learning from her 2 1/2 year old brother, who is very independent. But they get along very well.

We were in St. Louis last weekend, to visit family. Grandma (my grandma) has had a decline in health recently, and it was important to us to get another visit in if we could. It was nice to see her, and she is still so sharp mentally. It was nice to visit with the aunts and uncles as well, and Liam cannot stop talking about cousin Bridget. oh, and that he saw an elephant pee and poo at the zoo.

We go to Seattle in two weeks, which will be nice and hard at the same time.

A few pictures from our Thanksgiving in Mahwah NJ with Uncle Bill and Aunt Linda:

You know, it’s really amazing that they allow us to have children…

I love this photo

The Lippmann Family (Alex’s cousins, Quinn, Becky, Alexandra, and Chris)

And, Zombie children

The Boy is currently smack in the middle of the terrific twos, and has been learning to assert his new found sense of independence something fierce.  Lately he’s been experimenting with misrepresenting reality to try and get his way, and really, I’m pretty impressed with it.  Since November we’ve been commuting to a daycare in town via the T (Boston’s public transit).  On the way home we can either go bus to the red line, or green line to red line.  The green line takes a bit longer but is all train travel, and Liam seems to have inherited Dad’s disdain for buses.  On the way out of daycare we usually stand on the bridge over the green line and take whatever comes first, bus or train.  Liam initially started saying “No bus. Train!” and trying to direct us down the stairs to get on the train.  Recently, he noticed that on walk to the bridge, Emily and I watch the interchange a couple of blocks away to see if a bus is stopped at the light.  From that he got the idea to call out “I don’t see a bus” in the hope that we’d go down to the train instead.  Today, on the walk to the bridge he told me “No bus”, then explained “The bus is broken”.  I have to say, I’m pretty impressed.  If I remember my cognitive development textbooks at all, creative deceit is a relatively advanced skill.  My hope is that by next month he’ll have moved up to direct acts of sabotage against the #47 crosstown.

The four of us had a good Christmas this year.  Liam is already two and a half, and is getting to be able to get really excited about opening presents and checking out new things.  Dor is 6 months (actually 6 months on Christmas day), and while she wasn’t as into the whole receiving and opening presents process, she loved the crinkly wrapping paper that they came in.  While Liam was busy running around like a wild man, she wiled away many a happy hour scrunching up and trying to eat the wrapping paper.  Though we tried to discourage the eating of the paper, there was discussion at the time that her upcoming diaper might look like someone had set off a confetti filled party popper.

The week before Christmas the four of us went on the Somerville Illuminations trolley tour.  It was our first time going, and it turned out to be a lot of fun.  We took the bus down to the Somerville city hall where we all loaded up on trolley tour buses and cruised around the back streets of Somerville to check out all the over-the-top decorating jobs that had been done.  It made a fun evening out on the town, and was nice to get out of the house for a drive around town.  Liam had a great time looking at all the lights, and Dor had fun grinning at all the people on the trolley. For the next several days, Liam keep asking to ’see more lights’.  By the end of the trip he had gotten the hang of saying ‘Ooh and Ahh’  when we passed another decorated house.

Christmas eve we made our traditional pierogi and mushroom soup dinner.  Looking through my mom’s old cookbook, Emily found a recipe for a sauerkraut, mushroom and sour cream filling which may have come down from my grandfather or great-grandfather, depending on how you read the reference.  We made that along side the normal potato cheese filling, and it was excellent.  Liam spent the afternoon up on his step stool helping me at the counter.  He was pretty good with the rolling pin and helped roll out the dough for the pierogies.

You wouldn’t imagine that the step-stool would be that much of an important thing to The Boy, but it really is.  For him, the step-stool turns out to be a powerful tool of acquisition and inclusion.  With it, he’s able to get up to the adult working height and take part in the stuff that mom and dad are doing in the kitchen.  He’s gotten really good at pulling it up to the counter and climbing up to help put food in the Cuisinart, roll out dough, or simply make a grab for whatever is interesting on the counter.

There’s far more to write about, but its quarter of eleven and I’m already exhausted.  My New Year’s Resolution is to get back to regular posts on this blog, and for right now, a short post is better than none at all.  Hopefully more later though, and hopefully I still have a couple of people still interested in reading.

I was glad that Alex finished out the month of October at NEB, mostly because it meant that Liam, Dor, and I got to attend the NEB Halloween party one more time.

Liam trick or treating on the grounds, with the squeeky mouse that Paula gave him

Liam with Kaan, one of his friends from daycare, and one of the first kids that you could actually call his friend. They recognize each other and scream and give each other hugs when they see each other. They ride in the vanpool together, and sometimes hold hands when walking into daycare

Dor uses her third eye

Give me that donut!

Liam and Paula, a woman who rides in the vanpool. Liam loves Paula. She is the person who drove us to the hospital when Dor was born.

Dor and Paula

We’re going to make a concerted effort to try to get back into updating the blog. We had been very busy for a while, and then the upheaval and chaos around my mom dying. We’ve had a lot of change in the last several months. Dor born. Mom got sick and then died. Alex started interviewing for, and then got, a new job. I returned  to work from maternity leave. Alex changed jobs. Liam and Dor changed daycare. We are finally settling back into some sort of routine, but it’s been tough.

I’m going to try to put some pictures up from the last few months, but I won’t to intensive long posts about it, so that we can try to get up to the present.  As mentioned before, at the end of August we attended Kat and Taybin’s wedding. The following weekend we went to Lake George (our last weekend there as Bill and Linda sold the place). Then we went to St. Louis to visit family and introduce them all to Dor. I then flew to Seattle with Dor to see my mom and family, and Alex and Liam flew home to Boston. I stayed in Seattle a week, returned home to Boston and started work. I was at work for one week when my sister Anne called and told me to come back to Seattle. I flew back out that day, with Dor again, and was gone until October 8th. October 8th I flew back to Boston, toured the new daycare with Alex, and the next day we drove out to Syracuse to meet with Alex’s dad, Bill, Linda, Becky, Will, and Catherine to spread Penny’s ashes (Alex’s mom, who died in November 2007). We then had a few days in Boston before flying back to St. Louis for my mom’s funeral. Then back to Boston, where I  started back at work, and Alex went on to finish up his last few weeks at NEB. November 2 he started at Dana Farber Cancer Institute, where he is doing HIV research. As you can see, it was total chaos for a while there. Liam had some sleep set backs during all this, which isn’t really surprising when you think about all the changes and travel, etc. Not to mention that I was away from him for 17 days (7 and then 10), when the longest I had ever been away before was about 72 hours. It has taken a lot of patience and work to get his sleeping back to normal, but it seems to be there. He’s such a good, and resilient kid. They both keep me so busy I haven’t really had time to grieve. I can’t decide if that is a good thing or not. We just keep going, because that’s all we can do. I still terribly miss my mom. I’m sure that doesn’t change or go away.

I thought we had pictures from our Lake George and first St. Louis trip online, but we don’t yet. Until Alex can remedy that, I will post some pictures from Halloween and various other pictures from that time frame.

Liam has been learning how to take his clothes off, and often will take off his shirt or pants and run around…

Dor has been developing great head control, and actually really enjoys her tummy time. Our limiting factor is that Liam likes to try to do tummy time with her/on her, so we have to patrol like hawks while she is down. She has done lots of rolling from tummy to back (has been doing it since September) but just this week finally turned from her back to her tummy on her own. She is very smiley, and has the biggest cheeks around. She’s also quite vocal, and coos, squeels, and laughs/giggles a lot.

Liam drawing on his chalk board

We love cuddle time on the bed…

We were going to dress Liam up as Mario (from Mario Brothers) for Halloween, but just could not get organized to do it. Honestly, right after the funeral and returning home, it was a miracle that I was functioning at all. A mom friend from the playground who has somewhat adopted us lent us this costume, and Liam loved it

Dor’s costume was not nearly as exciting, but she was still pretty cute

A street near our house really goes all out for Halloween, choosing a theme and all the houses decorating around that theme. They close of the street to traffic, and everyone is out and about in their costumes. This year’s theme was Halloween Vegas. It was really cool.

Liam had a doppleganger out that night:

A few days later, Dor dressed up as a puritan

It has been too long since last posting, and there is a lot of stuff to put up. But I’ll start with the most recent, and saddest post. I didn’t even get around to posting that my mom had been diagnosed with Acute Myeloid Leukemia (AML) on August 24, 2009, with immediate admission the the hospital to start chemotherapy. It’s too long and too fresh to post all the details, but my mom died on October 6, 2009, at 12:01am. 42 days from diagnosis to death. I can’t believe how fast it went. And I’m having trouble believing it’s real at all. I can’t believe almost exactly 2 years ago we were making a similar post about Alex’s mom. I can’t believe Penny died when Liam was 3 1/2 months old, and my mom died when Dor was 3 1/2 months old. The funeral was in St. Louis on October 17th. There is a memorial mass in Bellevue, WA tomorrow, and a walk on Mercer Island in her memory on October 31st. I’m at work so can’t access pictures right now, but here is a copy of the eulogy from her funeral

Tina was a wife, a mother, a grandmother, a daughter, a sister, and an aunt. To many of us she was an anchor, a constant presence that was there whenever we needed to be held against a storm. She shared in our joy and our pain, and encouraged us at every step. I like to think that we in turn were able to provide the same support and consistency to her when she needed it. On a personal note, my mother taught me how to quilt, to knit, to cook, and how to be a mother. I’m still working on that last one, and am saddened that she will not get to see me through this next stage in my life. One thing that my family and I have seen and learned since my mother’s passing October 6, is that she was many things to many people, not just her family. She touched many lives. I hope that she knew that. In this difficult time, we take comfort in reviewing the kind words and memories that people who knew her during different stages of her life have chosen to share with us.

From her City House classmates:
Tina was a remarkable woman with great intellect, wit, charm, thoughtfulness, and many more wonderful attributes. We wanted so much to celebrate a victory over her disease and so we sent her our thoughts and prayers, our cards, and, most of all, our love. She was so bright and loving and peaceful when we were in high school. She was a true child of the Sacred Heart and we will miss her.

From friends and neighbors from St. Roch, Parkview, and St. Louis:
She was such a friendly, good hearted and generous person. I always enjoyed talking with your mother. She seemed to have such interesting perspectives on things and often unique and very funny ways of expressing her thoughts. It would give a lift to my day when she stopped by. Your mother and I enjoyed many laps around Steinberg skating rink and I always thought of her as a lovely, frighteningly intelligent woman who was devoted to her husband and her wonderful children.
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From fellow walkers, Interlake High School colleagues, and Seattle friends:
Our scheduled walkers meeting was very sad but uplifting at the same time as folks shared the fun things they had done with Tina and the wonderful way she treated them. It was always Tina who made everyone feel welcome. She always appreciated and thanked everyone for helping. I have been privileged, entertained, and blessed to share the past 10 years with Tina. She was a lady with passion about what she was interested in and she was always able to share it with us. I remember how passionate she was about her genealogy research, moving on to her knitting projects which she happily showed us as each project progressed, and on to her love of walking. Tina had a large personality and an even larger heart. Each day was an adventure with her (and to her). She was so thrilled and proud of her grandma status. She was all about family, projects of some kind, energy, and love. It has been an honor to know Tina and I will miss her deeply.

To us, Tina is a saint who was devout in her faith, sacrificed for her family, cared for her mother-in-law and volunteered at St. Madeleine Sophie, her parish, in Bellevue, Washington. As a reflection of how highly her Seattle friends thought of Tina, the Interlaken Trailblazers walking club is dedicating a bench and plaque in her honor along one of her favorite walks on Mercer Island, Washington. For Tina, each day was too short for all of the thoughts she wanted to think, all the walks she wanted to take, all the books she wanted to read, and all the friends she wanted to see.
At the end, she battled her disease with great dignity in a courageous and upbeat way. She remained constant in her faith and was supported and comforted by the loan of a St. Rose Philippine Duchesne relic and holy water from Lourdes. We take solace that she has gone home to eternal life. The pain of her disease forever gone and her memory forever in our hearts

I truly truly miss her, already, and my heart hurts in a way I didn’t know was possible.
More updates soon.

Warning, there are a lot of pictures here (39 to be exact)!

Finally a post with as many, or more, pictures of Dor than of Liam. We went to Kat and Taybin’s wedding in Woodstock, CT last weekend. We had a great time and the wedding was short but heartfelt. The food at the reception was yummy, and they hired babysitters to watch the many toddler children, which allowed us parents to relax a little. The next day we went to the cabin Kat and Taybin were staying at for their honeymoon, and just hung out and swam. Also very fun and relaxing, just what we needed. We got to spend time with our friend’s Naama and Greg, and their new daughter Lena (from LA). And Colin also came in from Seattle. We don’t get to see our West Coast friends very often, so this was a nice opportunity.

Without further ado

A family portrait, just after bath-time

Dor on the bed at the hotel

The many faces of Dor

Teacup and Dingo

And he’s gone!

Curl up…

and stretch!

The ladies all dressed up for the wedding

Liam was the ring-bearer. He carried a small bird’s next with candy rings in it down the aisle. He only tried to give it to one person sitting on the aisle, and then promptly took the next to Taybin

a few wedding shots. Look how happy Kat, the bride, looks

After the wedding, the bride and groom asked everyone to join them behind the barn, and took a group photo. I’m sure it will be an awesome photo, it was a very picturesque setting.

Now, let’s dig in to some BBQ!

Greg and Lena

A friend of ours from the Clark years, Emily Walker, with the bride, Kat

Derrik and Colin get very seriouis

Liam gets down on the dance floor

Our table at the wedding (Colin, Derrik, Saul, Erica, Greg, Naama and Lena)

Alex and Dor

Naama and Lena

This is pretty much how Liam looks all the time

Then the groom broke out the hula hoop. There is a long story resulting in an inside joke about a hula hoop, but just suffice it to say, it was a very funny gift from Alex and I.

I guess he lost his hula hoop mojo? The bride assures us he actually won a hula hoop contest at a bar once

.A fine family

I love the way Liam is looking at Dor

We continue our attempt to get Liam to go into water, for example, here at the hotel pool. He still isn’t buying it. He did get into his swimsuit and step on the first stair into the pool, but that’s all he would do.

Emily Walker, holding Dor, and Naama

Liam, Taybin, and Kat feeding the ducks at the lake

I hope you can tell in this picture that he is screaming at the ducks in glee

And finally, the boys and the grill. what is it about boys and grills?

No pictures today, I apologize.

Just wanted to take a few moments while Dor is quietly sleeping in her cocoon to give an update on things in the Holman Household.

Liam continues to grow every day, adding words and sentences to his massive (to us) vocabulary. I love when he uses complex words in appropriate ways. For example, yesterday Dor and I met Alex and Liam in Davis Square when they got home from work. We decided to splurge and share a cup of ice cream (Almond Joy flavored). While we were ordering it, Liam kept insisting “I eat too, I eat too”. Maybe it’s not that impressive that he understands, and uses correctly, the concept of “too” meaning also, not just the number, but it seemed impressive to me. He continues to want to do things on his own, and often says “no, I do it” or “no, my turn”. He also carries the step stool round now so that he can climb up and get things off the counter, get on the bed, wash his hands at the sink, etc. If he wants to watch me do something in the kitchen, he will go to his room, get the step stool, and carry it all the way into the kitchen. We’ve begun a little bit of potty training, offering to let him sit on the potty whenever we change his diaper. He pretty consistenly pees in it, and has even pooped in it a few times (sorry). He isn’t at the point where he tells us beforehand that he needs to use the potty, but he is getting comfortable using it. When he uses it, he puts his hands in the air and says “yay pee in the potty”. Funny word pronunciation of the day is when he points at the fridge and says what sounds like “manyana”… this actually means “my yogurt”. Also, when he hears music, he starts to hum/coo to it, his version of singing. He calls music “noise”, even when I try to get him to repeat “mu-sic” he says “no-ise”. Plus, he is just incredibly cute, even when in the throws of “terrible twos”, or as I like to call it “angsty twos”.

Dor continues to develop and grow as well. We have been having random social smiles over the past week or two, getting more regular every day. She is cooing up a storm, already much more verbal than Liam was at this age. (We’re told girls tend to be more verbal than boys; boys tend to be more physical at first, then it all balances out). She is still napping quite a bit, and is pleasantly portable. She’s growing more slowly than Liam, but still at a steady rate. I think she is just over 10 lbs now. We’re beginning to wonder if her eyes are turning brownish, as both Alex and I have thought they look a touch brown out of the corner of our eyes.

Other exciting things, next weekend is our friend Taybin’s wedding. We’re excited to see him marry his fiancee, Kat. We’re also excited to see our friends from college: Naama (and Greg and their new daughter Lena), and Colin. I’m sure other college friends will be there, but those are the ones we are most excited about.

For Labor Day we are going to Lake George to visit Bill and Linda. The cousins may be there as well, which would be a lot of fun. Sadly, they have put the lake house on the market. Obviously this is their decision, but it is sad because it is my most favorite place on earth. (A close second would be Milford Sound in New Zealand, but Lake George is a little easier to get to). This will most likely be our last visit there, so I want to make sure to really savor it.

Then the next weekend we are going to St. Louis to visit my family.

Then it’s back to work. I can’t believe 12 weeks is almost over. It goes so fast.

It is a little silly to have three seperate posts with pictures related to Liam’s birthday. But if I didn’t break it up this way, it would be one really really long post. I promise we have also been taking some pictures of Dor. These last pictures are from the Moms Group Birthday Party. As I mentioned below, I love these moms. They have been an awesome source of support for 2 years now. We met at a playground across the street from one mom’s house, because she had her son just five days before the party. The kids ran around and played on the jungle gyms, while we moms (and dads) talked and ate. The intstructor from our group two years ago, Deb, was able to come as well. Finally, we played parachute.

This is Tiffany and her son Declan, with Liam and I. Tiffany lives a few blocks away in Arlington, and we get together at the playground frequently. Both our boys are very active and so it’s great to get out and have someone to talk to while they run around. Sadly (for me) she’s moving a few towns away in about a month.

Trying to get nine moms and nine kids to pose at the same time is impossible, so I’m putting up two pictuers

From the top right:

Lisa (mom) & Katie, Jen (mom) & Joceyln, Sarah (mom) & Alexandra, Rachel (mom) & Gabriel

Bottom right:

Deb, our instructor; Margaret (mom) & Matthew, Holly (mom) & Savannah, Katie (mom) & Yonald Jr, Tiffany (mom) & Delcan, Me & Liam

I love this photo

Yes, Dor really does wonder what exactly she got herself into